Life-altering addition

Welcoming a new child into the family makes me feel like I have to re-learn how to be a mother again. However, since I did it twice already (my firstborn doesn’t count, I didn’t have to re-learn anything ๐Ÿ˜‰ ), I had thought that the re-learning would be less hard, and I would be more prepared with dealing with it.

P1030414 Nothing would have prepared me with Edry. He came into my world on 19 June, about 20 days earlier than his due date. He came out of my womb, shrieking like my other 3 sons had. He was healthy. And he was different. He has Down syndrome.

It’s not about re-learning to be a mother anymore. It’s about re-learning to live my life, and looking at my life in a whole different angle. Some days are fine, some days are questionable. I’m learning and coping with this reality one day at a time. Actually, that’s not entirely correct. I can’t handle it one day at a time. But I can take it, one task at a time.

Blogging-wise, I’m not sure where this will go. Priorities have changed. Expectations are different. I know I will still blog, but not the way I used to. But maybe… this is just another task that I will need to tackle, when the time comes.

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Posted on 2 July, 2010 under Life in reality and tagged with , , ,

15 comments

  1. chegu carol says:

    Congratulations on your new bundle of joy, Lorna.
    I’m sure he will be much loved by you and your family despite the fact that he’s going through condition that differs from any other normal kids.
    And I’m definitely sure you can take it, like you say, one at a time.
    Cheers!

  2. Carol says:

    Congratulations Lorna! I’m sure little Edry will be a great blessings to his family. Whatever it takes, I know you can do it. God bless

  3. He’s beautiful! We just had our first a few months back. Since we’re both close to forty, I spent a lot of time thinking about the possibilities of having a kid with Down’s or other special needs. My conclusion was that it didn’t matter. You’ll love this kid and do a phenomenal job parenting him, and I’m sure he’ll bring you much joy in years to come. Congrats!

    1. Lorna says:

      Thank you, Mike, I really appreciate your comment and encouragement. Sharing with other parents online who are in the same situation as I am has given me the hope and faith to raise my son the best possible way I can. Thank God for the Internet!

  4. Hi Lorna, i got here via ‘top commentators’ plugin in wordpress. Not quite what I expected to read. And really wanted to encourage you in your new journey. The picture of your son is lovely and I am sure he is going to bring you many many hours of pleasure and happiness. I have a friend who has a down syndrome child and at first it was really hard. One thing she said to me, is after rearranging her lifestyle priorities and learning to ‘be’ from moment to moment not only did she learn to cope with her son, but also to enjoy the pleasure of life more. Now they have so many stories of love and laughter, of fun and happiness. And I hope this will be true for you to. Good Luck

    1. Lorna says:

      Thank you for dropping by, Kerry-ann. A wise advice your friend has given, and that is what I try to achieve every day.

      Also, I gotta say I love your blog — all the best with your challenge!

  5. Bidet says:

    Congrats on the new addition to your family. Hes beautiful. Its understandable if you don’t have much time to blog now because of your kid. Look forward to seeing more posts once you have more time.

  6. earnword says:

    what can i said, congratulations!

  7. algarve says:

    Congrats for being blessed with a baby boy for the fourth time. I am sure you will cope with him easily as you have gained much mother hood experience dealing with your 3 kids before he came into your life. Keep writing as this is the only way you can give a vent to your feelings.

    1. Lorna says:

      @algarve: Thank you for your kind words, it’s really appreciated.

  8. Phnoy Tv says:

    congrats for the little angel

  9. PlayMom says:

    Congratulations on your fourth boy! I have four girls. My fourth baby was born with a birth defect that required her skull to be reconstructed. While I know it’s not the same as down syndrome, it was upsetting and stressful. But nonetheless we have all adjusted and now she is a wonderful addition to our family, just as your cute little baby is.

    1. Lorna says:

      Thanks for dropping by, I really like your site, especially the recipes!

  10. Tech says:

    Congratulations. He’s a beautiful baby boy.

  11. Wow! You got a cute baby.

    It’s sad to hear that the baby has a down syndrome.

    My wife is already 6 months pregnant and we are expecting a normal delivery. We will see the baby next week through 4D ultrasound.

    Mark M.

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